• The Biblical Picture of Marriage

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    The biblical picture of marriage is the blending of two lives into a new unit which will both satisfy the individuals involved, and serve the purposes of God. Our hearts cry out for intimacy. We were made to share life with another. God created marriage to be the most intimate…

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  • The ‘In-Love’ Illusion isTemporary”

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    The “in love” experience, which leads most of us to get married, is an emotional obsession that leads us to the conclusion that we have married the most wonderful person in the world. It's an illusion, but it seems real, and it is one of life's greatest emotional highs. But…

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  • We Must Seek Reconciliation

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    Where do we turn for help when we are separated? In the Bible we find not only what we ought to do, but also the encouragement and power to do it. The words of Paul become our own: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” When we…

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  • Separation Calls for Intensive Care

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    Separation is not death, although it may seem like “the valley of the shadow of death”. But the shadow of death is not to be equated with death. Separation may be the valley of restoration, and the pain you feel may be labor pains which will give rebirth to your…

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  • Biblical Love Is A Choice

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    A man said to me recently: “We have a problem. My wife's sister told us that her husband just left her and is asking for a divorce. She is turning to us for advice. I'm not sure what to tell her. Should she contest the divorce? How do we help…

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  • Do You Need An Evacuation Plan?

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    If you are living with a verbally abusive spouse, you need an evacuation plan and you need to share the plan with your spouse. Try this: “I want to share with you a decision I have made. As you know, I have talked with you in the past about how…

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  • Dealing Effectively with Failures

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    You don't have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them…

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  • Admit that You are Not Perfect

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    “Most of us will admit that we are not perfect.” From time to time we say and do things that are not loving, kind, or helpful. In a marriage, these failures build into walls of separation. If you would like to remove past failures, you must first identify them. Get…

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