• The Languages of Apology

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    What do you say or do when you apologize to someone? For some, it's “I'm sorry.” To them, that is an apology. To others, “I'm sorry,” is just getting started. They want to hear, “I was wrong. I should not have done that. What can I do to make it…

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  • Apologizing Enhances Self-Esteem

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    People who grow up with low self-esteem, often find it difficult to apologize. To them, an apology seems to be a sign of weakness. In reality, apologizing enhances one's self-esteem. People respect the man or woman who is willing to take responsibility for their own failures. Receiving the respect and…

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  • Barriers are Removed with Apologies

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    When Dr. Jennifer Thomas and I wrote the book: The five languages of Apology, we discovered that some people almost never apologize. One wife said, “My husband rarely apologizes, because he doesn't see a lot of what he does as wrong. He finds it hard to admit that he makes…

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  • Why is Apologizing so Hard?

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    Why is apologizing so hard? One husband said, “I know I did wrong, but so did she. In fact, she precipitated the whole thing. Why should I apologize when she's the one who started it?” The problem with the waiting game is that the average lifespan for men and women…

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  • Apologize and Change

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    If when you hug your spouse and they stiffen up, and it feels like you are hugging a tree, there's a reason. Either physical touch is not their love language, or, they have a lot of resentment toward you because of your past behavior. The answer to the first is…

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  • When a Touch can Talk

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    If your spouse complains, “I don't think you would ever touch me if I didn't initiate it,” they are telling you that ‘physical touch' is their love language. What makes them feel loved is when you reach out and hold their hand as you walk across the parking lot, or…

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  • Have You Hugged Today?

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    Have you hugged your child today? Or, if you're married, have you hugged your spouse today? How long has it been since you kissed each other? Physical touch is one of the five love languages. Some people grew up in homes were family members seldom touched each other. For these…

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  • Physical Touch

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    Physical touch is one of the five love languages. For some people, it is their primary love language. If you want them to feel loved, then give them a hug, or a pat on the back. This is true for children as well as adults. If a child's love language…

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  • Touch is Fundamental

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    A while ago, I met an old friend whom I had not seen in a long time. Immediately, we hugged each other. Why? Because ‘touch' is fundamental to who we are as humans. We speak of the ‘five senses'. One of the five is touch. It is one of the…

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  • Communicating Desires

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    We are creatures of desire. That is, we want certain things. Desires are usually expressed in terms of “I want…, I wish…I hope… or I would like… In an intimate marriage, couples can share their desires without making demands. If my wife tells me that she would like a new…

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